Relationship

WHEN YOUR EX IS YOUR FRIEND

Written by Chioma Kalu

I have always heard this: he’s just like every other person to me now, she’s just like every other person to me now.
It hasn’t still occurred to a lot of persons that the reason why they are experiencing relationship failure is because they are still keeping in touch with their ex. Your past should remain your past it should not interfere with your present. The moment you give that hand of fellowship to your ex, it becomes a threat to your relationship. I am not saying that you should keep malice with him/her but you must curtail your conversation with them in fact everything that pertains to them should have a limit that’s if you can’t avoid them totally and don’t forget to make them understand that.

Most ladies/women think they are capable of handling their exes but the truth remains that it’s too dangerous and could ruin your present relationship. If you are a man or a woman, you have one thing to think about: “how would this make my partner feel?” If you don’t answer this sincerely you might be having a problem. I’ll like to let us know a few things that could happen when your ex is your friend.

  1. It makes you confused:
    Sometimes it looks like you don’t know what you want, you find yourself battling with your heart over what you have the answers to. Don’t forget easily that you have known this person for a very long time and due to some reasons you choose your path. But now, when he/she comes back into your life, they end up leaving you confused and even scared to make a decision.
  2. It makes you untrustworthy:
    When your spouse finds out that you have a communication with your ex, no matter how you tend to present it, it will always look like you aren’t telling the truth. That’s why I said earlier that you must curtail your conversations, it shouldn’t be someone you see all the time or talk about always, it will only make you and untrusted person.
  3. He/she will be taking advantage of you:
    sometimes they can be so selfish and unrealistic, don’t make it look as if he can influence you even when you aren’t together any more. Remember, you can just be there till he finds a replacement for you. Have you ever thought of having a better relationship than the previous one? Now this is the right time for you to make appropriate changes.

Do you love your present partner, if YES then stay away from your EX.

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About the author

Chioma Kalu

My name is Olugu Chioma Kalu. I was born in Aba, Abia State Nigeria. I am currently a student of Abia State University Uturu (ABSU) studying English Language and literature. I am an effective communicator and a good writer. I assure you that I understand you and will be able to connect with you.

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