Written by Chioma Kalu

“Every woman that finally figured out her worth, has picked up her suitcases of pride and boarded a flight to freedom, which landed in the valley of change.”
― Shannon L. Alder

Many people in a love relationship are yet to experience true happiness. They tend to mistake it for some ordinary feeling when it is more than that. Most times we find ourselves caring too much about others that we forget about our own feeling. When you are always after making your spouse o happy without s/he reciprocating same, check it as you may end up losing your worth in the eyes of the person

Note this! I’m not saying that sacrifices shouldn’t be made but let it made to the right people and don’t forget that you are important too. The energy you channel to your partner should also be channelled by him/her to you. One-sided happiness kills relationship, it makes your relationship boring. If you have someone who you give your all just to see them smile, they should be able to do the same for you too. 

How to know that you aren’t in a happy relationship:

When you have the feeling of not being treated fairly or valued by your partner:   If your partner doesn’t value you, it shows that your happiness is being tampered with. Valuing yourself means figuring for your happiness vice versa. 

When your partner feels that your dreams, goals and aspiration is not important:   Like I said earlier when you sacrifice your happiness, they should be able to do the same for you. If you are helping your partner pursue his/her career, they should also be supportive towards you own career. 

When you don’t have your partner’s attention.

Everyone wants to be listened to in a relationship, one can’t be happy when h/er partner doesn’t have time for h/er. S/he may probably be busy with one thing or the other. This negligence has ruined a lot of relationships. Like Stephanie Klein rightly said, “What we wait around a lifetime for with one person, we can find in a moment with someone else.”

When your spouse find someone that gives h/her that attention they have been seeking from you, that will mark the beginning of the end of their love for you. Yes it is cheating but to them it is all about finding that true happiness after waiting too long with the hope that you will change. We have people who take into hard drugs just to get happiness and they end up becoming addicted to it

Remember, being happy in your relationship gives you the whole right of expressing yourself, saying what you feel, and doing what’s best for you and your partner. If you fail to express yourself, you end up having a boring relationship that lacks sincerity. Making your partner happy is a very perfect idea but does that also imply when s/he is denying you of your happiness ,you must remain in that union?

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About the author

Chioma Kalu

My name is Olugu Chioma Kalu. I was born in Aba, Abia State Nigeria. I am currently a student of Abia State University Uturu (ABSU) studying English Language and literature. I am an effective communicator and a good writer. I assure you that I understand you and will be able to connect with you.

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